tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873093851683468203.post2239151039457953843..comments2023-07-01T06:46:16.188-05:00Comments on The Domestic Wannabe: perspective can be a little funny.Ashleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14111076542551700221noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873093851683468203.post-7065094701312269652011-11-08T23:58:41.986-06:002011-11-08T23:58:41.986-06:00i can relate somehow even if im not yet a mother. ...i can relate somehow even if im not yet a mother. kids somehow irritation to have. they want things and things and when they are tired they throw it away. but as they grow up you will experience things that you wished they were babies again. :)<br /><br /><a href="http://www.pulseuniform.com/" rel="nofollow">PulseUniform</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873093851683468203.post-69348768080888309952011-11-05T05:26:04.155-05:002011-11-05T05:26:04.155-05:00I could have written this exact post. I felt the s...I could have written this exact post. I felt the same way when we had B during my parents business's busy season. I guess I'm a glutton for punishment, because K was born during harvest. Hubby is working crazy late hours and now I'm juggling 2 kids. I'm struggling to see the light at the end of the tunnel. But- my kids are healthy and happy- do that's what is keeping me from being too upset. But it's tough. Thanks for writing thisJulie S.http://back2basicsblog.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873093851683468203.post-19288058368385179042011-10-28T10:43:18.250-05:002011-10-28T10:43:18.250-05:00I read this and tears filled my eyes! I fully und...I read this and tears filled my eyes! I fully understand your emotions and experience. When Papa Bear is gone I too struggle with falling into a bit of hopelessness (being a "single parent" for a time). I appreciate the fact that you so openly and honestly shared this - the fact that others feel the same way we do at times can provide a sense of reassurance and hope that things will be alright so kuddos to you! XXOOTysiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09981261118751584610noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873093851683468203.post-47937215098322363302011-10-26T09:48:34.156-05:002011-10-26T09:48:34.156-05:00It took such courage to write this! You are not al...It took such courage to write this! You are not alone ... as evident by everyone's comments. I just wanted you to know that I struggled with postpartum depression with my first baby, and I know things would have been MUCH worse without my husband around. You are doing a wonderful job. I am in awe of women who have to do so much of the work alone. Don't be afraid to ask for help ... especially if you suspect depression. I'm so glad to have discovered your blog and to "meet" you!suzanne @ pretty swellhttp://prettyswellblog.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873093851683468203.post-21843740323913766382011-10-26T07:07:08.214-05:002011-10-26T07:07:08.214-05:00I am completely and utterly able to relate with th...I am completely and utterly able to relate with this post. My husband works looooong hours 6 days a week (sometimes 7). My son is 3. Oh I love my sweet boy, but he can be defiant sometimes. Long days aren't always fun. I've found that my outlook does help though. Maybe you should get involved in a mom's group or something to help "shorten" the days or just to help you get out of the house and not have "free" time to think about what all is wrong with your life. I speak from experience....it's SO easy to do that...been there. Google "meet-up" and see if there are any mom's groups in your area. I got desperate one day for some adult conversation and thought it would be nice to have organzied play dates OFTEN for my son. I googled Mom's group and my city...and found an amazing group of Christian moms. Good luck! Thanks for being transparent. =) I love your blog!Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13499817646565734280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873093851683468203.post-4056110532303223042011-10-26T06:47:35.075-05:002011-10-26T06:47:35.075-05:00I think this is why I look forward to your posts s...I think this is why I look forward to your posts so much. I really feel like you and I are a lot alike. I have been reading your blog for a while, and my son is a few months older than Ryann.<br /><br />My husband is in the military, and while he hasn't been deployed since my son was born, I know what it is like to have a cutie, wonderful, but absent husband. It doesn't help that we wait ten years to have kids (totally my choice), so we had a wonderfully selfish life for many years, and I feel just as guilty as you describe here when I think about how hard we tried to have kids. <br /><br />Keep your chin up as much as you can. We will be thinking about you, and please take comfort knowing that you are not alone!Sandyhttp://www.hopefullysomethingcute.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873093851683468203.post-57958227746597799142011-10-25T21:48:43.345-05:002011-10-25T21:48:43.345-05:00I've read your blog for almost a year now, but...I've read your blog for almost a year now, but I don't know that I've ever posted a comment before. Sorry for that. I wanted to let you know that I have felt like this for a while as well. I don't have children of my own yet, but I also have a wonderful life and still find myself down OFTEN. I lost my mom to cancer back in May after a long road of treatments and watching her go through hell and back. I know that's part of it, I'm definitely still in the early stages of grief. But I can't help but have several days a week where I can barely pick myself out of bed. I'm young, healthy, married to a wonderful man. We live in a house that we own with a lab who is the goofiest thing ever. So much to be happy about, and it's not that I'm being greedy or unappreciative for all I have, but I'm still not happy. Still trying to figure this one out. Sending you lots of hugs and the hope that you find your happiness.Meghanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12606189343395494725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873093851683468203.post-45155331724926332422011-10-25T21:26:33.713-05:002011-10-25T21:26:33.713-05:00Oh how I know where you are coming from. Guilt is ...Oh how I know where you are coming from. Guilt is such a thing when we have some perspective and think 'What do I have to complain about?!' But it's normal and if you don't get it out then it'll eat you alive. <br />My husband just got a new job and it's going to be some crazy long hours sometime which scares me as I don't want to feel like a single parent with our 5 month old. But it's going to be what's best for our family and hopefully something that J will enjoy more than his current job. <br />And I just want to say, I love, love, love your blog. I have made mine private because after baby, I started sucking at updating but I still keep up with yours and that adorable little girl!ThoughtsONhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02172703166180232809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873093851683468203.post-39554459463321099202011-10-25T20:25:05.549-05:002011-10-25T20:25:05.549-05:00Thanks for posting this. I really apprciate your h...Thanks for posting this. I really apprciate your honesty...and I can SO relate to SO much of how you are feeling. It feels so wrong to complain when you know you have SO much...I only wish I could be as honest as you are in my blog (but too many of my husband's family reads). Anyways, now I'm rambling. *hugs*Meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01290306715266130886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873093851683468203.post-72434290103671564002011-10-25T17:20:22.965-05:002011-10-25T17:20:22.965-05:00As I read this post I felt like I wrote it myself!...As I read this post I felt like I wrote it myself! I wish I had some great advice to make it better but I am afraid I don't. The best thing I have found to work is talking through my (apparently not so crazy) emotions with my husband. Talking to anyone, even us blog friends, is the best way to start getting it off your mind and bringing you back to center. I would also like to add that as a previous runner when I was done training for my marathon I went through this pretty big. I think your body is adjusting from that still too.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08639053391825307387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873093851683468203.post-44961361597019273112011-10-25T16:08:15.739-05:002011-10-25T16:08:15.739-05:00i read the dragon mom post & through tears str...i read the dragon mom post & through tears streaming down my face it totally put things in perspective {as parker is back in his room refusing to sleep as i type}. just take it one day at a time & keep yourself busy with things that make you happy :) <br /><br />and a couple years ago (pre-parker) sam & i both had used up all our vacay to go to Australia for a few weeks & couldn't travel anywhere for Christmas. We stayed home & gave each other gifts & filled stockings & had our own little celebration & it is STILL one of my most favorite, memorable Christmases. Maybe staying put wouldn't be so bad? <br /><br />Cheer up pretty lady!Amy Nielsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13778616217193819377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873093851683468203.post-20389037156873454202011-10-25T14:34:42.371-05:002011-10-25T14:34:42.371-05:00There's so much that I want to share with you....There's so much that I want to share with you... and yet at this point I'm not sure where exactly I'd begin... <br />Question? Would you be open to receiving a little bundle of love via snail mail? You're free to check out my blog to make sure I'm not a creeper or anything! Here's my e-mail address amberdawn{dot}prov{dot}31{at}gmail{dot}com... if you want, I'd love it if you sent me your mailing address, so that I can send you a little more than a few words written here in this 'Comment' space.<br />xoxo<br />AmberDawnAmberDawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13712699659986096125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873093851683468203.post-1243748271234845342011-10-25T10:29:07.854-05:002011-10-25T10:29:07.854-05:00I can't say I've walked in your shoes, but...I can't say I've walked in your shoes, but I think I know how you feel. My hubby works 48 hour shifts and when they fall on holidays it's a real bummer. Family invites me over but it just isn't the same when everyone else has their spouse and I'm there alone.<br /><br />This year I'm trying something new. We're going to do our own thing and host a belated Thanksgiving on the Saturday after turkey day. I'll serve something fun like pulled pork and we'll have games and movies and munchies. Open invitation. I hope it'll be a nice way to make up for not getting to have the actual holiday together and with our family.<br /><br />Best wishes, I know it's easier said than done but I hope you find the joy in the little things.Jessica J.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873093851683468203.post-60742998495871746742011-10-25T09:51:45.823-05:002011-10-25T09:51:45.823-05:00I feel ya Ashley. I think a lot (most?) of us deal...I feel ya Ashley. I think a lot (most?) of us deal with some form of depression as our hormones are leveling out...but the degree varies, I think. <br /><br />I know Ryann is a little young for this still, but when I know J is going to be home late, I try to push her nap back until 1 or 2--it helps a little for us!Meredithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08257863829848728846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873093851683468203.post-9277610811662170452011-10-25T09:37:00.636-05:002011-10-25T09:37:00.636-05:00I know how you feel, and this is pretty much how I...I know how you feel, and this is pretty much how I felt through a lot of my maternity leave, especially the first half. I really do not do well being home alone with a barely verbal child all day. I know some love it, but I would definitely go crazy. I hope you are able to find some way to get through the rest of residency - maybe some of the other "basically single mamas" will have some good advice for you. I really would feel the exact same way you do, and am so thankful that both Ben and I have very flexible schedules and can pretty much split everything 50/50. I know I'd be pretty damn resentful a lot of the time if that wasn't the case, despite knowing that wasn't logical or a good way to feel.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17928807868790599467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873093851683468203.post-83453801900408934372011-10-25T09:22:27.949-05:002011-10-25T09:22:27.949-05:00I know a little bit about how you feel… except I d...I know a little bit about how you feel… except I don't have a child (yet). My husband and I have been together for almost 7 years (married for 5 months) and he travels 90% of the time. He is gone from January 1st through April every week Monday-Friday and at least one weekend a month. Summer settles down for us some with about 2 trips a month, but come August through December he is gone again every Monday-Friday. I do pretty well on my own for living in the middle of the lonely country, but it most certainly wears on a person. I find myself struggling majorly once December comes and it’s only begun. I think one thing we really struggle with is the fact I’m VERY happy to see him come Friday nights and he just wants to relax, watch a movie and go to bed early. I want to go out for food, meet up with friends, etc – since I’ve been home alone all week. It’s something with struggle with every year, but it is the life we chose (but like you, the only one we know).<br />It’s very hard and I know what you mean by feeling guilty for feeling depressed regarding a fairly “normal” healthy life. Don’t ever feel bad for being human and feeling these types of feelings. You are obviously doing the best you can; take one day at a time. I know this will be a huge ordeal for us when we decide to have children, but just like you I know I need to just take it all in stride… one day at a time. I also try to keep myself busy with classes after work so I’m not home alone every night. <br />I wish you the best! Thanks for sharing; it’s nice to know me (we, whomever) are not alone.Staceynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873093851683468203.post-23807052899197125942011-10-25T08:15:53.132-05:002011-10-25T08:15:53.132-05:00I have been reading your blog for a while now. and...I have been reading your blog for a while now. and I rarely comment, sorry :( just sorta lazy I guess. My husband works construction and is often very late home from work, sometimes when our 2 year old is already in bed. I often feel like a single parent, and struggle with the same thoughts you are thinking.. why can't I just be happy to have a healthy little girl? With #2 on the way and due in February, I'd be totally lying to say I'm not way nervous. Parenting is Hard. but worth every struggle. and I always have to remember when I'm about to lose it what someone told me once when Raegan was going through a particularly ornery week "The days are LONG, but the years are short" and eventually "You're going to miss this." Hang in there, you are not alone!Aaron and Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10550035547862839779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873093851683468203.post-78116273259535611332011-10-25T07:27:29.813-05:002011-10-25T07:27:29.813-05:00Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone...Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. As a fellow mom to a toddler with a husband that works LONG hours, I completely understand. I want every day to be wonderful and fun, but some days I find myself just surviving. <br />I struggled with depression for years and felt guilty about it because I had a good life. But I learned that my feelings were still valid and that my depression was still valid. I really want to encourage you... if you think this is more than just a slump, to find someone to talk to. It can be a friend or a counselor- just someone that you trust.<br />Been following your blog for a while... my blog is (very) small, but feel free to pop in sometime :)~ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09242409958920657887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8873093851683468203.post-45636105145116004222011-10-25T07:09:54.272-05:002011-10-25T07:09:54.272-05:00Oh how I can relate to everything you typed here. ...Oh how I can relate to everything you typed here. After our second was born, my husband had to go right back to work, so I was at home with a new baby and an almost 4 year old. It was terrifying. His jobs in the summer are crazy b/c he is working two jobs (one being at a waterpark) so he is gone a lot too. All the summer holidays (memorial, 4th of July, labor day) he has to work along with late hours.<br /><br />4:30 was my time too I would start feeling down b/c I knew he wouldn't be home till 8 or 9 some nights.<br /><br />You are not alone with these feelings. A lot of moms may not want to talk about it or you feel like "why am i complaining it could be so much worse?" I have found that just talking about it with my mom or close friend has helped me out with some of the sadness b/c I know I can call them and feel better.Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10108413751603857326noreply@blogger.com