written March 15th
My baby is already two months old. That is just ridiculous. I feel like I anticipated her arrival for so long, and then boom, two months have gone by.
We had Arden's two month well visit yesterday and I was surprised by her size. I expected her to be near 11 pounds, but the sweet girl weighed in at 10 pounds and 2 ounces, and measured at just a hair over 22 inches long. So despite being the largest at birth, she was the smallest of all our girls at two months (see Ryann, Elsie and Thea at two months). Her weight fell into the 18th percentile, her length into the 27th. I discussed the amount she spits up with the pediatrician, along with her baby acne, both of which were deemed a non issue (what I expected, they are both just, unfortunate). Overall she looks very healthy, and just suggested that if I can handle it, to maybe stay away from dairy until she is closer to five months old. Arden didn't appreciate the shots in the slightest, but we survived and hopefully won't have to go back to the doctor until her four month appointment.
Arden is pretty much in all 0-3 month clothes. The Could Island brand (from Target) newborn sleepers lasted the longest. Width wise she still had PLENTY of room, but she just outgrew the limbs. I felt like we were going to plow through the 0-3 month size, but she must have grown quick in the first few weeks and then slowed down. She is wearing a size one diaper, and I haven't put any shoes on her at all so I'm not sure where we'd be at in those.
I suppose I shouldn't be shocked that Arden is the smallest of the four right now, she eats the least and sleeps the most. She is my little dream baby, I can hardly stand it. Arden has been giving me at minimum a six hour stretch for well over a week. Maybe even two. The last three nights she has slept nine to ten hours straight. I have no clue why. I have done nothing differently. She sleeps in an Ollie Swaddle in the rock 'n play in our room. I'd love to try her in something flat, or in her crib, but um... I also am really enjoying this whole sleeping thing. I've been able to work out in the mornings and often even shower. Right now she is going to bed sometime between 9 and 10pm, and waking up anywhere between 5-7:30am. If she wakes before 6:00am she has gone right back to sleep and will sleep another three hours. After 6 it is a bit more unpredictable, but then she'll take a three hour morning nap if we're at home. The evenings are a little dicey, but she still isn't super crabby. I look forward to her going to bed a little earlier, but again, I'm getting to sleep so I'm not going to complain.
Something else that Arden has done that none of the rest of the girls seemed able to, is fall asleep on her own. It has only happened a handful of times, but we're going to keep practicing over the next couple of weeks. It takes a bit to get her drowsy (swaddled and bouncing and pacing and such), but she has managed at that point, to go from a fairly alert state to asleep. My hope is that we can get the hang of putting herself to sleep a bit more, and then work on the transition to the crib. I go back and forth on when to move her out of our room. With her sleeping decently at night right now, I don't need the convenience of her being next to me. At the same time the new recommendations are something silly like having them in your room for the first year. That ain't gonna happen. Chris has been sleeping on the couch since she came home from the hospital so that neither of them disturb each other.
She, in general, is just a more content baby than any of the rest ever were. It is night and day from Thea. She will fairly easily go 4 hours between feedings during the day. I regularly have to wake her from her first nap to make sure we get in a decent number of nursing sessions. For about the last week, I'd say she nursed 5-6 times a day. We've tried a bottle once (at six weeks) and it didn't really go over well. I bought a Tommee Tippee bottle and hope to give that a go sometime soon. Maybe a different bottle will change her mind? Fingers crossed, because it would be nice to actually be able to have a date night, or date afternoon, or do anything where I don't feel like I have to be around her just in case she decides she is hungry. Oh, we're also four for four on pacifier hating kids. I don't mind it a bit when they're older, but when they're babies I sure wish they'd at least tolerate it!
Arden's eyes definitely seem to have a blue hue to them. But her hair still looks fairly dark compared to the other three! I'm trying to wrap my brain around possibly having a brunette. Ha! I'm sure there is still time for that to change. Kiddo has a ton of baby acne, or really the pediatrician called it something else, but her poor face just looks miserable. And it is incredibly dry all the time, despite lots of aquaphor. I'm anxious for that to clear up. Her bottom lip is also split right down the middle, and it just won't heal up. I'm not sure if it causes her any pain but it sure looks uncomfortable.
In the last month we celebrated Arden's first holiday, Valentine's day. But between running to class parties for the other kids (in which I didn't take her because germs) and her sleeping, I only took one measly picture. Sorry fourth born! I promise I love you so very much. I'm so glad that flu season is nearing the end, and now that she has had her vaccines maybe we'll get out a bit more. At one point I realized the poor kid hadn't left the house in like six days. Not that she notices or cares, but it is kind of crazy to think about. And so far she has been pretty great when we do go places so it isn't like it should be scary to go. Unless you consider Thea in the equation. She is my wild card. I kind of want to put her on a leash.
Arden enjoys her bath time, and seems fascinated with her sisters. Or terrified of them. One of the two. Ha. She lights up when she hears her Daddy's voice. Tummy time isn't so much her favorite. She gasps and gags if we go outside and it is the slightest bit windy.
Sweet girl, I can't get enough of you. I love you Arden!
March 22, 2018
March 9, 2018
thea + arden
I get so many questions about how Thea is adjusting to Arden coming home. And truly, I couldn't be happier with how she has handled the transition. She hasn't lashed out, and the bulk of her behavior can be attributed to the fact that she A) is 2.5, and B) has some strong willed older sisters whose mannerisms are rubbing off on her. She tells me Arden is going to be her best friend and she loves to 'gently' rub her head. If Arden spits up, Thea wants to be the one to wipe it off (sorry about that Arden, I know her spit wiping skills aren't the best). When I ask Thea if she wants Arden to join us for bedtime, or Daddy to take her, she usually wants Arden in her room. She has already asked if Arden can sleep in her bed with her. I'm so proud of Thea and just love watching their relationship form.
photos taken February 8th, Arden was 3 weeks 6 days
And a couple more photos of Arden because she is cute and I have them...
photos taken February 8th, Arden was 3 weeks 6 days
And a couple more photos of Arden because she is cute and I have them...
February 28, 2018
arden - one month
I wrote this whole post, and I thought saved it to my drafts. Finally came to add the photos and everything but the first snippet is gone. I could definitely cry right now. It is hard to come by time to write! So I'm rewriting it, as best as I can.
Damn you time. Just like that a month has flown by. I must have known I'd have another baby after Thea. While I can't wait to see what each new day brings, I'm definitely mourning every day that goes by. Arden looks more like a 'real baby' than a newborn already!
Because her weight gain was great at our follow up weight check (up to 7lbs 7oz) Arden didn't have a one month appointment. Based on our ever inaccurate guess with our home scale, she was right around nine pounds at one month. She is definitely filling out more and more, maybe just not quite as fast as Thea did. HA. Her limbs are too long for a lot of her newborn sleepers, especially if I try to put the mitts over her hands. But 0-3 and 3 month clothes are so dang baggy. We just opened up size one diapers because she has been leaking out of the newborns. But it seems to be a brand issue more than anything. All of my kids have used Pampers but they don't seem to be working for Arden!
For the most part nursing is going fantastically. She nurses roughly every 2.5-3 hours throughout the day. Sometimes she is fussy between then, but I try to keep from feeding her too much because she spits up so much. So so so so much. But she seems to be gaining weight just fine and isn't screaming all the time or anything, so I guess we'll just roll with it. We haven't tried a bottle yet, but I'm not having high hopes of it going well. Just like all the other girls she isn't amused by the pacifier. When I try to put it in her mouth she starts gagging and acting like I'm killing her. Better get on the bottle thing before it is too late...
Sleep has been (knock on wood) not too shabby. Much like our other children, it is hard for Arden to settle in for a nap during the day. There isn't any just snuggling to sleep, and holding her or having her on my chest doesn't necessarily keep her asleep. However when she wakes up to nurse in the middle of the night she goes back to sleep with little to no effort. And by some miracle the sweet girl has already been giving me a few 5.5-7 hour stretches at night. I don't know where this magical child came from, but I think I'll keep her. I had hoped maybe I'd actually start a child on a flat surface so we wouldn't have the dreaded rock 'n play to crib transition, but if I lay her down flat she either just plain wakes up immediately, or spits up, wakes up, and gets the hiccups. So we're sticking with what works at the moment and she is swaddled in the rock 'n play next to my bed.
I'm going to try not to constantly compare Arden to Thea, but my gosh, Arden is a much easier baby. Not only was sleep pretty awful with Thea, and she was fussy much more often, she also screamed bloody murder every time she was in the car seat. Sure Arden can be fussy, but she tolerates being in the car seat really well, and over all is just calmer and more easy going. Between that and me getting a reasonable amount of sleep, (and a lot of help from my parents) this whole baby thing just seems so much easier. It is glorious. Without the help of my parents I no doubt would not be fairing near as well, but they are keeping me sane and us well fed. :) So very grateful for them!
In her first couple weeks of life, Chris compared Arden to a sloth, and the description was hilariously accurate. She was fairly alert from the beginning, but all of her movements were so slow. When she would turn her head or move her eyes, it was at a snails pace. Once he called her a sloth I couldn't help but laugh watching her while she was awake.
Arden must have been born in the wrong month. That baby doesn't like to be cold in the slightest. When I'm having a hard time getting her to settle in for a nap, I stand in front of a space heater in our bathroom and sway. It is like her kryptonite. She often cries when someone with cold hands touches her. She also seems fairly content when getting a bath, until you take her out and she gets chilly. Sometimes we snuggle with big fluffy blankets and she really seems to like it. I mean, whats not to love about big fluffy blankets but still.
Her sisters most definitely adore her. I think Elsie says "Arden is sooo cute," at minimum ten times a day. Ryann and Thea tell me she is cute too. They have all been fairly helpful with her too, if I ask them to grab a diaper or a burp cloth, things of that nature. They also enjoy holding her, however everyone has become a wee bit nervous about getting spit up on. Elsie was holding her one afternoon and Arden spit up all over Elsie's hand. I thought Elsie was going to throw her for a second! She recovered quickly though.
Arden, sweet sweet baby girl, I am so thankful God sent you to me. My heart needed you so much. Me, your dad, your sisters, we are so happy you are a part of our family. We love you so very much.
Damn you time. Just like that a month has flown by. I must have known I'd have another baby after Thea. While I can't wait to see what each new day brings, I'm definitely mourning every day that goes by. Arden looks more like a 'real baby' than a newborn already!
Because her weight gain was great at our follow up weight check (up to 7lbs 7oz) Arden didn't have a one month appointment. Based on our ever inaccurate guess with our home scale, she was right around nine pounds at one month. She is definitely filling out more and more, maybe just not quite as fast as Thea did. HA. Her limbs are too long for a lot of her newborn sleepers, especially if I try to put the mitts over her hands. But 0-3 and 3 month clothes are so dang baggy. We just opened up size one diapers because she has been leaking out of the newborns. But it seems to be a brand issue more than anything. All of my kids have used Pampers but they don't seem to be working for Arden!
For the most part nursing is going fantastically. She nurses roughly every 2.5-3 hours throughout the day. Sometimes she is fussy between then, but I try to keep from feeding her too much because she spits up so much. So so so so much. But she seems to be gaining weight just fine and isn't screaming all the time or anything, so I guess we'll just roll with it. We haven't tried a bottle yet, but I'm not having high hopes of it going well. Just like all the other girls she isn't amused by the pacifier. When I try to put it in her mouth she starts gagging and acting like I'm killing her. Better get on the bottle thing before it is too late...
Sleep has been (knock on wood) not too shabby. Much like our other children, it is hard for Arden to settle in for a nap during the day. There isn't any just snuggling to sleep, and holding her or having her on my chest doesn't necessarily keep her asleep. However when she wakes up to nurse in the middle of the night she goes back to sleep with little to no effort. And by some miracle the sweet girl has already been giving me a few 5.5-7 hour stretches at night. I don't know where this magical child came from, but I think I'll keep her. I had hoped maybe I'd actually start a child on a flat surface so we wouldn't have the dreaded rock 'n play to crib transition, but if I lay her down flat she either just plain wakes up immediately, or spits up, wakes up, and gets the hiccups. So we're sticking with what works at the moment and she is swaddled in the rock 'n play next to my bed.
I'm going to try not to constantly compare Arden to Thea, but my gosh, Arden is a much easier baby. Not only was sleep pretty awful with Thea, and she was fussy much more often, she also screamed bloody murder every time she was in the car seat. Sure Arden can be fussy, but she tolerates being in the car seat really well, and over all is just calmer and more easy going. Between that and me getting a reasonable amount of sleep, (and a lot of help from my parents) this whole baby thing just seems so much easier. It is glorious. Without the help of my parents I no doubt would not be fairing near as well, but they are keeping me sane and us well fed. :) So very grateful for them!
In her first couple weeks of life, Chris compared Arden to a sloth, and the description was hilariously accurate. She was fairly alert from the beginning, but all of her movements were so slow. When she would turn her head or move her eyes, it was at a snails pace. Once he called her a sloth I couldn't help but laugh watching her while she was awake.
Arden must have been born in the wrong month. That baby doesn't like to be cold in the slightest. When I'm having a hard time getting her to settle in for a nap, I stand in front of a space heater in our bathroom and sway. It is like her kryptonite. She often cries when someone with cold hands touches her. She also seems fairly content when getting a bath, until you take her out and she gets chilly. Sometimes we snuggle with big fluffy blankets and she really seems to like it. I mean, whats not to love about big fluffy blankets but still.
Her sisters most definitely adore her. I think Elsie says "Arden is sooo cute," at minimum ten times a day. Ryann and Thea tell me she is cute too. They have all been fairly helpful with her too, if I ask them to grab a diaper or a burp cloth, things of that nature. They also enjoy holding her, however everyone has become a wee bit nervous about getting spit up on. Elsie was holding her one afternoon and Arden spit up all over Elsie's hand. I thought Elsie was going to throw her for a second! She recovered quickly though.
Arden, sweet sweet baby girl, I am so thankful God sent you to me. My heart needed you so much. Me, your dad, your sisters, we are so happy you are a part of our family. We love you so very much.
February 7, 2018
miss arden rae
Miss Arden Rae
7 pounds 2 ounces | 20 inches
January 12th, 2018 | 1:04pm
I apologize for not sharing sooner, I know most people who still occasionally read the blog also follow me on instagram (the blog killer of the universe). But some of you do not, so here you go! Miss Arden Rae was born on January 12th at 39 weeks after a successful elective induction. I'm working on writing out her birth story, but until then, labor was mostly uneventful, delivery was intense but uncomplicated, and I couldn't be more in love with our new precious little one.
I first came across the name Arden from a sweet little girl in Elsie's dance class when we lived in Kansas City. It was different, but not absurd. We considered it when I was pregnant with Thea, but obviously opted for Thea instead. During this pregnancy we toyed with several names, Gemma, Harlow, Genevieve, Penelope... but ultimately we loved Arden the most, and I love the fact that it currently isn't anywhere close to the social security top 100. Her middle name, Rae, is after my mother.
With as much help as my mother has provided over the years, and even more so now as we have brought home baby number four, I think she earned a namesake. :) Both she and my father have been amazing, taking and picking up children from here and there, cooking, watching the big girls, helping with lots of tasks. I feel like we've almost seamlessly transitioned to a family of six, all because they have been so helpful. We've had other family and friends lend a hand or a meal as well, and truly it has made such a positive impact on this post partum period. I'm so grateful.
The girls are all very much in love with their baby sister. Thea acts as if she has always been a part of the family, and while there have been a few trying moments, they have been very very few. She has been incredibly helpful when I ask for something (a diaper, wipes, burp cloths), and has basically continued on like nothing has changed. And honestly any poor behavior she has can easily be chalked up to the fact that she is two and has old sisters who don't always model the best behavior. As in, she has the eye roll and the "uggghhh MOM" down. Oy.
Arden has been such a sweet little baby. Evenings are the fussiest, and so far no dice on her just laying down and falling asleep on her own. Typical of our children. What on Earth do I do to ruin them from the get go? She has given me a few nights with amazing stretches of sleep in her three weeks of life, and nurses like a champ. And spits up like a champ too, also typical of our babies. But more on her in less than a week when she'll already be a month old. Hold me. Time is going way too fast.
It's crazy to look at our family pictures now, and know this is it. This is my family. No more wondering and waiting how our puzzle will be put together. It is complete.
photo by Adrienne Maples
January 10, 2018
thirty-eight weeks | baby five
Yesterday morning I had my very last OB appointment EVER. EVVVVVEEERRRR. That is the plan anyway. All looked well, 2cm dilated, 40% effaced, and we're a go for an induction on Friday morning. My doctor said something to the effect that I know what I'm doing, and the more I thought about it, the more this situation is completely foreign to me. I've never had an elective induction, they've all been medically necessary. Constant monitoring was needed for both baby and I. I was pretty much chained to the bed. This time? Not so much.
Also, last Thursday night around 11pm I started having relatively regular real contractions. They weren't incredibly painful, but definitely not just Braxton Hicks. They were coming roughly every 5-7 minutes. And I didn't have a damn clue what I was supposed to do. I've never had a contraction outside of the hospital. How the heck was I supposed to know if it was real labor? I ended up wandering the house, gathering up some last minute things I hadn't put with my bags (my camera, a pillow, the boppy, etc). Then I straightened my hair and put on a little make-up, lol. Just passing the time. The contractions were much less painful when I was up and moving around. Finally around 2:30am I finished a cup of water and decided to lay down for a bit. I managed to fall asleep, and when I woke up there weren't really any contractions to speak of. I'm going to chalk it up to being dehydrated because I'd been sick, but it sure kicked my butt into gear as far as making sure all my stuff was easy to grab and go.
size of baby: A spaghetti squash. Possibly 19.5 inches long and over seven pounds. I can't wait to see how much she weighs. I'm betting on 7lbs 6oz as a birth weight. But I'll likely be completely wrong.
weight gain: +25 pounds. I had a touch of a stomach virus last Wednesday and Thursday, and it pretty much killed my appetite until about yesterday.
maternity clothes: Most maternity clothes can't contain the belly.
symptoms: I've developed a bit of a waddle thanks to all the headbutts to the cervix. And my skin is stupidly dry despite drinking as much water as I can tolerate and using body oil and body butter daily. My back gets sore, my pelvis gets sore, but for the most part, I'm doing alright.
exercise: Lugging around this belly.
cravings/aversions: I NEED WHITE CHEESE DIP. That is all.
movement: We seem to be on an every other day trend of her being a complete crazy baby in there, to barely any movement at all. There is no middle ground.
sleep: I was dehydrated thanks to the stomach bug so I slept through the night a couple of times.
gender: Girl
looking forward to: Her birth, obviously. And watching all the girls meet her. And also sleeping on my stomach again. I can't wait to lay on my stomach.
worries: I just need her in my arms. Then I'll stop worrying about her so much. I am worried about how Thea is going to handle a baby coming home. Or really, how I'm going to handle Thea not being the baby anymore. The girl has NEVER cried when I've dropped her off at MMO. In the beginning she'd affirm that "Mommy always comes back?", and when I'd tell her yes, she'd happily go in. She runs into the church nursery no problem now. But today of all days, the last day I'll be dropping her off at MMO for quite some time, she kicked and screamed and cried for me. I felt terrible and I had no idea why she was acting like that. I was in tears before I made it into my car. Kind of put a damper on my last kid free morning for the next who knows how long. I just felt so guilty. The girl has plenty of people to love her and she has fun at 'school', but still. #momguilt
best moment this week: All my bags are packed and ready. The house is freshly cleaned and mostly (ish) organized. For the most part I feel ready. It's a good feeling.
We're ready for you sister! Time to come out and play!
January 2, 2018
thirty-seven weeks | baby five
Somehow over the last few days my blood pressure seems to have completely gone back to normal. We're surprised, my doctor is surprised, it is a mystery. In theory that is a good thing, but I sure was hoping to meet baby girl sooner rather than later! Everything checked out just fine at my appointment. My doctor did struggle to find baby's heartbeat at first, and the silence in the room was painful. It was maybe a total of two minutes? But I think my heart stopped. She did find it, and at first she thought it was tough to find because girlfriend was really low, but after she checked me decided that wasn't the case. Baby is likely sunny side up. Turn around girlie, I'd like you facing the appropriate way for delivery please! At least she is head down though, I'll take that.
size of baby: A honeydew melon. Around 6 pounds and 19 inches long.
weight gain: +29 pounds. Going to see if I can hold steady for the next 10 days!
maternity clothes: Definitely.
symptoms: Restless legs, back pain, constipation, swelling, and now I've somehow managed to pull the ligaments or muscles at the bottom of my belly. Trying to lift my legs is near impossible. But really, it could be much much worse. I'd say I have a mild case of all of the above. Do I waddle a bit when I walk? Yes. But I'm not dying. :)
exercise: I walked on the treadmill yesterday and this morning. With the pain in my lower belly/pelvis area, I can't go more than 2.5mph. It is kind of pathetic. But it is better than nothing I hope.
cravings/aversions: I really like the girahdelli dark chocolate chips with a handful of mixed nuts. Still haven't gotten my white cheese dip fix. If I'm not having this kid until next week, maybe we can accomplish that.
movement: She just isn't moving as much. I hate it, but I still would probably get the amount of kicks in that I needed if I was counting.
sleep: Overall not too bad. We've just been staying up too late in general!
gender: Girl
looking forward to: Baby's birth day. Also everyone being back in school come Monday morning, lol. I love my kids, but 2 glorious hours by myself in the house sounds fantastic.
worries: Every day that goes by I get a little bit more worried that something will happen to our sweet girl before she is born. A fairly irrational fear, I have no reason to believe anything will go wrong or that anything is wrong, but the anxiety is creeping back in. The little incident this morning with the heartbeat certainly didn't help. 10 days or less, 10 days or less...
best moment this week: Thea was sitting in my lap (or attempting to, not a lot of room there!) while I was reading her a book. Baby sister was moving around and pushing on her. Thea was giggling and saying "Stop it! Stop it sister! You tickling me!" It was adorable. Man I hope Thea doesn't hate me when we bring home this baby.
December 27, 2017
thirty-six weeks | baby five
My blood pressure has been all over the place with no real rhyme or reason to it, but everything else looks fine, so apparently no one cares? Whatever. I've had numbers between 120/80 to 160/95 over the last two weeks. But more blood work came back just fine. My family was all hoping I'd be induced this coming Friday (the 29th) but that isn't looking likely at all. Maybe this will be the first time I actually make it to 39 weeks? Whatever the case, I'm meeting baby girl in 16 days or less. It is still pretty surreal.
size of baby: A ripe papaya. She is likely nearing 19 inches and 6 pounds.
weight gain: +29 pounds. I hadn't gained any weight in a few weeks, and then BAM. Christmas happened. Oh well.
maternity clothes: Definitely.
symptoms: Restless legs, back pain, constipation, headaches, and now we can add swelling to the list. I've had a few days of horrible swelling, but overall it isn't too bad. But it is definitely pitting now which is awesome if I try to wear real shoes.
exercise: Nothing really. But now that I'm nearing the 37 week mark, I'm thinking I need to increase the walking again, encourage little miss to join us on the outside. :)
cravings/aversions: Truthfully nothing really. Maybe white cheese dip still. I really need to just eat some before I have this baby so I can say I did. I'm pretty sure the dairy will make me feel like crap though.
movement: She has actually slowed down over the last week. Still a fair amount of movement in the evenings and middle of the night (which I'm sure will carry over after she is born, fantastic) but during the day I have to really concentrate on it.
sleep: With all of the things on my to-do list and Christmas stuff, I didn't sleep much in the last week in general. But overall I'm sleeping fine.
gender: Girl
looking forward to: Meeting this baby girl! We're basically at that waiting stage point and I'm antsy. It doesn't feel like it is going to happen any time soon, but it could! Also call me Scrooge but I'm looking forward to taking down the Christmas decorations and getting my house back in order. I love the decorations and the festiveness, but it always feels soooo good to get it down!
worries: I'm a little anxious about changing up the family dynamic again. I think Thea will be a good big sister, but she also plays the baby of the family pretty well, and as always, it breaks my heart to think of completely rocking her world. I'm pretty sure Ryann and Elsie will be mostly unphased, and in general just enjoy the extra screen time they get when she is born. HA.
best moment this week: The wall paper and custom name sign we ordered arrived! And they're on the wall and I'm in love. And it was Christmas and I got a new computer and a new diaper bag and I've checked a few more things off my to-do list. Just keep nesting, just keep nesting... :)
With the new wallpaper in the nursery and the belly in front of the Christmas tree.
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